Kids transition from babies to toddlers during the second year of life, as tentative first steps give way to confident walking. As your toddler starts exploring, be sure to childproof your home to prevent household accidents.
Kids this age also make major strides in understanding language and figuring out how to communicate. At 12 months, most say their first word and start to use hand gestures and point to things. Gradually, their vocabulary will grow from one or two words to 50 words or more.
Your child will learn about language through interaction with you and other caregivers. During year two, a toddler’s vocabulary increases slowly over the first 6 months and then expands quickly during the second 6 months, when many start to use simple two-word sentences. By the second birthday, you’ll probably lose count of the number of words your toddler can say!
Understanding of language also improves—most toddlers understand much more than they can express.
Hand-eye coordination and manual dexterity will also improve. Toddlers gain better control over fingers and hands and can explore toys and surroundings more than before. Look for toys that encourage this, as mastering age-appropriate toys and games gives toddlers a sense of satisfaction and encourages them to move on to more challenging tasks.
How kids play also changes. As an infant, your child may have “played” with toys by shaking, banging, or throwing them. Your toddler now is aware of the function of objects, so is more likely to stack blocks, listen or talk into a toy phone, or push a toy car. In addition, the concept of pretend play starts to emerge. Your little one may pretend to drink from an empty cup, use a banana as a phone, or imagine a block is a car.
Toddlers learn by playing and they learn a lot between ages 1 and 3. At 1, a child may be working on a wobbly walk and just starting to use words. But by 3, most can balance briefly on one foot and speak in short sentences.
During these important years, toddlers will enjoy playing simple games with their parents and other caregivers. But they also can start enjoying group games with other young children, though they’ll need adult assistance.
Group games offer a chance for kids to be social, though toddlers will more often play alongside their friends rather than with them. They enjoy being around other kids, but will focus more on the leader or parent.
Later, kids progress from side-by-side play (parallel play) to a kind of play that allows more give and take between them. Along the way, toddlers will enjoy group games and can begin learning important lessons from them, such as how to take turns.
Emotions at Play
Many parents introduce play dates now. Toddlers enjoy having other kids around, but don’t expect them to “play” cooperatively with each other or to be enthusiastic about sharing toys. Have plenty of toys for everyone and be prepared to intervene when they don’t want to share. Older siblings can serve as role models when it comes to teaching, sharing, and taking turns.
Tantrums are more common during the toddler years, so expect your child to get frustrated from time to time. If you see a tantrum coming on, try to create a distraction with a book or interesting toy. Avoid letting your child get too tired or hungry, particularly while trying to master new tasks, as this can set the stage for tantrums.
While learning to walk during the second year of life, kids will also start becoming increasingly independent. But expect your child to fluctuate between wanting freedom and clinging to you for comfort and reassurance. Allow the freedom to explore but be there when you’re needed.
If it hasn’t come up yet, your child may develop separation anxiety, crying and clinging to you when you try to leave and resisting attention from others.
The onset of separation anxiety—and how long it lasts—varies widely from child to child. It often starts around 9 months of age, but can begin later. It improves as kids master the language and social skills to cope with strange situations and start to learn that the separation is not permanent.
Encouraging Your Child to Learn
Once toddlers learn to walk, there’s no turning back. Yours will want to keep moving to build on this newfound skill. Provide lots of opportunities for being active and learning and exploring in safe surroundings.
Games that your child might enjoy include peekaboo, pat-a-cake, and chasing games. Toddlers love to imitate adults and are fascinated with housework. Provide age-appropriate toys that will encourage this, such as a toy vacuum to use while you’re cleaning or pots, pans, and spoons to play with while you’re cooking.
Other toys that toddlers enjoy include brightly colored balls, blocks, stacking and nesting toys, fat crayons or markers, age-appropriate animal or people figures and dolls, toy cars and trains, shape sorters, peg boards, simple puzzles, push, pull, and riding toys.
Reading continues to be important. Your toddler can follow along with a story and point to objects in the pictures as you name them. Encourage your little one to name things he or she recognizes.
Chat about the books you read together and the things you did that day. Ask questions and encourage your toddler to reply by waiting for a response, then expand on those replies.
Remember that some toddlers develop slower or faster than others, and this variation is normal. Talk with your doctor if you have any concerns.
The Two Little Blackbirds Game
How the game is played: With singing and hand motions, the adult leads the children in a song about opposites.
Two little blackbirds sitting on the hill
(Start with your hands behind your back.)
One named Jack
(Bring one hand to the front with your pointer finger extended.)
One named Jill
(Bring your other hand to the front with pointer finger extended.)
Fly away, Jack!
(Put the hand and finger representing Jack behind your back.)
Fly away, Jill!
(Do the same with your “Jill” hand.)
Come back, Jack!
(Bring “Jack” back to front.)
Come back, Jill!
(Bring “Jill” back to front.)
Courtesy of Nemours Foundation.