Is Your Child Ready for Preschool?

Most preschools will start accepting children at around age 2 ½, but that doesn’t mean your child is magically ready for preschool when she reaches that age. Readiness for preschool has more to do with where your child is developmentally. Is your child socially, emotionally, physically, and cognitively ready to participate in a daily, structured, educational program with a group of other children?

Though it’s tempting to look for a quick answer to this question, to read a list of skills for instance, and say, “Yes my child can do these things, he’s ready,” that method isn’t foolproof. The best way to decide is to talk to other people who know her well, such as your spouse, your child’s doctor, and your child’s babysitters. Observe how she interacts with other children during play dates or while playing in public parks.

The following questions provided by Patricia Henderson Shimm, associate director of the Barnard College Center for Toddler Development in New York and co-author of Parenting Your Toddler, will help you think about the most important factors for preschool readiness.

• Is your child fairly independent? Preschool requires children to have certain basic skills. Most preschools will want your child to be potty-trained, for instance. Your child should also be able to take care of some other basic needs, like washing his hands after painting, eating his lunch without assistance, and sleeping alone.
• Can your child spend time away from you? If your child has been cared for by a babysitter or a relative, he’ll be better prepared to separate from you when he’s at preschool. Kids who are used to being apart from their parents often bounce right into preschool with hardly a backward glance. If your child hasn’t had many opportunities to be away from you, you might want to schedule some—a weekend with grandma, for instance, or a day with your sister and her kids. Even if you can’t work out your separation issues up front, don’t worry too much. Many children leave Mom or Dad for the first time to go to preschool and they do just fine. The trick is to help your child adjust in short doses. Many preschools will allow you to drop off your child for an hour or two during his first few days there. As your child gets used to his new environment, let him gradually work up to a full day.
• Can he or she work on projects independently? Preschool usually involves lots of arts and crafts projects that require concentration and the ability to focus on an individual task. If your child likes to draw at home or gets engrossed in puzzles and other activities on his own, he’s a good candidate for preschool. Even if she’s the kind of child who asks for help with everything, you can start getting him ready by setting up playtimes where he can entertain himself for a half hour or so. While you wash the dishes, encourage him to make creatures out of clay, for example. Gradually build up to longer stretches of solo play. Your goal here is to keep yourself moderately preoccupied with an activity so that he’ll get on with his own without too much hand-holding from you.
• Is your child ready to participate in groups? Many preschool activities, like “circle time,” require that all the children in a class participate at the same time. These interactions give children a chance to play and learn together, but also require them to sit still, listen to stories, and sing songs. This can be very difficult for kids under three who are naturally active explorers and not always developmentally ready to play with other kids. If your child isn’t used to group activities, you can start introducing them yourself. Take him to story time at your local library, for instance, or sign him up for a class such as tumbling to help him get used to playing with other children.
• Is he used to keeping a regular schedule? Preschools usually follow a predictable routine: circle time, play time, snack, playground, then lunch. There’s a good reason for this. Children tend to feel most comfortable and in control when the same things happen at the same time each day. So, if your child doesn’t keep to a schedule and each day is different from the last, it can help to standardize his days a bit before he starts preschool. Start by offering meals on a regular timetable. You could also plan to visit the park each afternoon or set—and stick to—a bedtime ritual (bath, then books, and bed).
• Does your child have the stamina for preschool? Whether it’s a half-day or full-day program, preschool keeps kids busy. There are art projects to do, field trips to take, and playgrounds to explore. Does your child thrive on activities like this, or does he have trouble moving from one thing to the next without getting cranky? Another thing to consider is how and when your child needs to nap. Preschools usually schedule nap time after lunch. If your little one can keep going until then or even all day like a wind-up toy, he’s set. If he still needs a mid-morning snooze, it might not be time yet to go to school. But you can work toward building his stamina by making sure he gets a good night’s sleep. If you have some flexibility in your schedule, you might also want to start him off in a half-day program to ease him into the hustle and bustle of preschool life, and gradually increase the length of his school day as he gets more comfortable.
• Why do you want your child in preschool? Think carefully about what your goals are for sending your child to preschool. Do you just need time for yourself or daycare for your child? There may be other options if it seems she isn’t ready yet for the rigors of school. Are you worried that if you don’t enroll her in full-time preschool, she won’t be ready for kindergarten? Most experts agree that there are other ways to develop the skills for kindergarten. Try attending a half-day or just go a few days a week to preschool. A study by the National Institutes of Child Health and Human Development found that children do best if they’re cared for by someone who is genuinely concerned about their well-being and development, and who makes sure they’re doing a variety of age-appropriate activities. They needn’t be enrolled in an organized preschool if you are able to do that. If you find that the main reasons you want to send your child to preschool are that she seems eager to learn new things and explore, she isn’t getting enough stimulation at home or daycare, or she seems ready to broaden his social horizons and interact with other children, chances are it’s the perfect time to begin preschool. #